Ghosts form the past!

Have you ever had your heart broken; have you ever had someone in your life that took your heart and shattered it into pieces? How long has it been; weeks, months, or maybe years? … How exactly would you feel if I mentioned that someone’s name now? Do you wish you can hurt them back or don’t you hold a grudge?

Most people get their heart broken at least once in their lifetime, whether they get cheated on, lied to or even they get treated rudely or hear hurtful words; it’s nothing to be happy about, but it’s simply life. Some people learn how to move on and let go of their past; but sadly, a lot of people get stuck in it; they waste their present weeping about what happened, and hoping they can get even one day, hoping they can confront the person that hurt them and tell them exactly how they feel. Time passes, but the story remains unfinished; it haunts the person’s mind like a ghost and it makes him unable to get on with his life…

Oh :0 , that’s a lot of drama! :D I am not used to write that negatively! I swear I didn’t mean to remind you of some sad memories; but, on a second thought, I did! I did want you to remember that person who is haunting you mind right now; I want you to remember how bad he made you feel one day, and how much you wanted to kill him then, maybe you still want to :D

I want you to ask yourself this question “What is he thinking about now?”… well, of course you don’t know what is he thinking about now, but the chance that he is thinking about you is 1 in a million… So, why are you so obsessed with him? Your obsession is not helping you getting even; it’s only hurting you and making you feel bad all the time! I know he hurt you, I know he disappointed you; but it’s not about him anymore, it’s about you now. So why don’t you just let go?

Years ago, I had my heart broken in every possible way by my best friend (ex-best friend of course); I used to get very mad and feel horrible when I hear her name, I was like “Shoot me please!” until I realized that the only one who was feeling bad was me, she wasn’t; and I knew that I didn’t deserve to be sad all this time, I was the oppressed not the oppressor. So I decided to feel good and forget all about her! Of course it wasn’t easy for me to forgive someone who hurt me that much, but I practically forced myself into it, I decided to be the better person and to let go; and by time, it got better. To be honest, I am not 100% in piece with her of course I am not and angel; but now when I meet her I don’t feel any kind of sadness, I don’t want something bad to happen to her, I even sympathize with her sometimes when she has a problem…

So, today’s lesson is: Learn how to forgive and to let go, it’s not just a gift to the people who hurt you, it’s the only way you can get your inner peace and you can keep your heart pure; and that serenity is what millions are dreaming of :) :)

جدد نيتك :)

اتنين ستات ، كل واحدة في مطبخها بتقشر بصل و عنيها بتوجعها و عمالة  تدمع....

الاولي، من جواها عمالة تهري و تمكت في نفسها "قطعت الجواز و سنينه! ما انا كنت قاعدة مرتاحة في بيت اهلي! يللا بالسم الهاري!!"

اما التانية، من جواها بتقول "يا رب انا بعمل كل ده عشانك! يا رب ارضي عني يا رب! يا رب خلي عملي ده في ميزان حسناتي!"

 

صحيح، الاتنين دول بيعملوا نفس الحاجة بالظبط من بره، بس من جوا الفرق كبير قوي! الست التانية دي جددت نيتها و اخدت علي عمل صغير قوي زي تقشير البصل حسنات كتير قوي بأذن الله! انما بقي الست التانية، طبعا الله اعلم ربنا بحسابها، بس احساسي بيقوللي ان الغلبان جوزها ممكن يجيلوا تسسم من كتر الغل اللي في الاكل

:D

 

باب الحسنات مش بس مقفول علي الصلاة و الصوم و الصدقة، لأ ده باب واسع قوي، عشان ربنا كريم قوي!  آى حاجة  ممكن تكون بتعملها، مهما كانت صغيرة (و تكون طبعا مش حرام)، ممكن تاخد حسنات عليها ان شاء الله، بس جدد نيتك! يعني في مذاكرتك، في شغلك، في شغل البيت، في تريبة ولادك، حتي لو في خروجك مع اصحابك بينة انك تتبسط شوية عشان ترجع تسعي في مرضاة الله...

يااااه! شوفوا كرم ربنا قد ايه؟ الحمدلله هلي نعمة الاسلام  :) متنسوش بقي كل يوم الصبح، تجددوا نيتكوا  :) :)

اللهم إجعل أعمالنا خالصة لوجهك الكريم ولا تشرك بها أحدا  :)

 

The bus station

 Have you ever stood at the bus station, saw the bus coming towards you and then thought “this one is so crowded, I will catch the next one”? … Did you ever arrive to the station just few seconds late that the bus had already left?  Happens to me all the time; but it always makes me wonder “what if?”… What if that first train could drive me faster to my destination?  What if the next one was more crowded? What if there is no next one?

When I think about it, I am amazed how much the bus station can resemble life; from how I see life, I think it has three major factors; a dream, an opportunity and time; a destination, a bus and the timing! Life is just like a bus station, revolving around these three factors; and if you lose one of them, you can never stop asking “What if?”

Most of us know Walt Disney’s famous quote “If you can dream it, you can do it. Always remember that this whole thing was started with a dream and a mouse.” This man had a dream, and he had a talent which was an opportunity. He believed that he could achieve his dreams, he seized the opportunity and he succeeded; just like that, when the timing was right, all he needed is a dream and an opportunity.

Time! It’s impossible to write down everything about “time” in one paragraph of course; but what I can tell you, is that time is the most important thing in this world; without it, life will be meaningless. “86400” seconds a day, every second is special, every moment that passes will never come back; and yet we waste days doing nothing even though we have million opportunities we can seize! Lately I started to use the time I waste on my way to college reading a book; surprisingly, I realized that I can finish a book every day; just in my transportation time. Watch out for your time because of you don’t control it, it will control you!

 Opportunities; there are two types of them; the first type is the safe, easy and more importantly available opportunity; like the subway! It’s always there, but still a lot of people prefer taking the bus. The easy opportunities are all around us, everywhere, in school, in work and even on the internet; like for example, the online free tutorials; you have a chance to learn anything you want, a language, a software program, a hobby, etc… but how many people actually use this opportunity? How many people take advantage of it? Very few people!

The other type of opportunities is the BIG opportunities that can come once in a life time! These opportunities are scary, risky and unpredictable. Some people have sense of adventure, they like to take risks and to seize these opportunities; others get scared and choose to go the “Safe” way. But sometimes their safe way make get lost, and sometimes they even forget what their destination was. And it’s up to you who do you want to be? Do you want to be just “someone else”? Or do you want to be someone who seized every opportunity?

And last but not least, we have the “Dream”. Not every one of us has a dream! And not every one of us believes that his dream can come true! But the truth is; life without a dream is tasteless! If you don’t have a destination, then what are you doing at the bus station? But thank God! If you’re not one of the lucky people who have dreams, there is a way you can find yours. SEIZE THE OPPORTUNITIES! Yes, if you don’t have any destination, be spontaneous, get on the bus, and see where it will take you. Learn new things go to new places as long as you have the opportunity to; you may find yourself in something you never thought you’d be even interested in… You have nothing to lose, so take risks! Dream big! Believe that there’s more in this life and you’ll get it… Be like Belle in beauty and the beast; when she said “There must be more than this provincial life!” she said it as if she was sure life could give her more! And that’s exactly what she got! :)

And finally, today’s message for you my reader is, seize every opportunity you can find! Because if there were no buses, how would you reach the destination? ;)

I will stand by you…

     Have you ever scolded your kid, or your little brother maybe; because he was spending his time drawing on papers, wasting his time and messing up the room? You yelled “Stop this stupid thing you’re doing and go study!” didn’t you? I did that with my sister few days ago, and you know what; SHAME ON ME!

    Every one of us has a gift inside him; maybe he knows it, and maybe not. Naturally, we are always trying to find the hidden treasure inside ourselves, to give our life a meaning, and to find out what makes us special; that’s what my sister was doing, she was digging trying to find her treasure; but foolish me! I stopped her! Even though I could’ve just said “Sweetie, you can continue your drawing, after you finish your homework” or “Sweetie,  please don’t throw papers on the floor, you can draw whatever you like, but keep the place clean” … But I didn’t! Instead I discouraged her and hurt her feelings!

    It came to my notice while I was reading some articles about “How to change bad habits”; that whenever someone writes helpful tips, “Get support” must be included.

    Come to think of it, if it hadn’t been for my siblings and my friends Hla, Rachel, Hend and Omar I wouldn’t have finished my story, I wouldn’t have created this blog  and I wouldn’t have been writing my thoughts down in these posts!  If they hadn’t supported me, I wouldn’t have had the courage to share my writings with you.

    It’s true; “Support” is one of the greatest gifts anyone can give you; it helps develop yourself and accomplish your dreams; and without it no one can move forward. Personally, I think it’s one of the human’s basic needs; it’s necessary in every relationship; parenthood, friendship or love, without support the relationship is destructive!

  Today, I learned that relationships are not about hanging out, going shopping together and gossiping; it’s about support! And sometimes the only thing your friend wants to hear is “I support you, and I will stand by you”. So, when your friend tells you that she’s going on a diet; don’t take her out for junk food; but yell at her if you catch her cheating. When your friend tells you he’s quitting smoking, don’t give up on him so fast; encourage him and believe he can do it; maybe he will take it more seriously if you do! When your friend, kid or sister tries a new hobby, take an interest instead of shutting her down.  Be a good friend :)

The window!

One month ago we had a tragic accident in our family, we lost our precious grandmother; and it was a shock for all of us. :( For a moment there I felt like I lost all my family, because grandma was the one person that brings the whole family together; and I swear I never felt that lonely like I felt the day of her funeral.

But on the same week of her death my uncle`s wife gave birth to the newest member of our family, my little cousin. :) And suddenly all the family started to come together and surround the baby and his parents; that baby was the one who brought us the joy back and helped us recovering our grief :)  

I`ve always believed that God is too merciful to take something  we love without giving us something in return to bring happiness back to our hearts; but I have never seen this theory so clear like when grandma died. His gift to us was so obvious and great... Thank God  :)

If you ever lose a friend, a job or an opportunity, be sure that there is something somewhere for you in return. The quote “When God closes a door, somewhere He opens a window” is very true, and sometimes you`re going to have to let go of your grief and look for that window around you because that`s how life works.

So today`s message is: Never lose hope, God`s mercy is infinite :) and your window will have a beautiful view, definitely :) :)

Rabbit vs. Duck!

Can you please take a look at the picture on the right side of the page…?

What can you see?

A rabbit; or a duck

Take another look now, but concentrate more; until you can see the other side of the picture.
In my opinion, the guy who drew this picture is a genius; he didn’t just draw a picture to confuse people between the rabbit and the duck, it`s not about them at all; in fact this picture here represents life!

Yes! Life is like a paradoxical picture that everyone sees in a different way. But that doesn’t mean that some of us are right and the others are wrong, it just means that we complete each other somehow; we won’t be able to get the whole picture without listening and understanding how the other sees it.  But if we do; we can be an unbeatable team. People waste a lot of time attacking others without even considering taking time to understand them.

I meet people daily on the internet, in the college, and even in the subways! They`re always fighting with each other even about things that are not worth a fight!  They spend the whole day arguing that they waste their time and energy for nothing. And then they go back home and complain “What a bad day!”
Well, don’t blame the day! We`re the ones doing that to ourselves; we choose to fight, even though if we just relax and listen to the other side we may actually find a common ground.

Dear reader, today’s lesson is: Take a breath, listen and understand!

Something new!

The mother is standing in the kitchen cooking, she reaches to get a pan off the cook; but the pan is so hot that she gets her hand burnt! Few seconds later, the little kid, who has watched the whole scene, repeats what his mother has just did, getting his hands burnt too!

How often do we see something like this happening? This small scene happens every day! But I have a question; why does the kid touch the hot plate? Does he want to get burnt? Or is he so innocent that he expects a different result?”

The new motto for young people these days is “I must try everything and learn from my experiences!” this is what a young man use as an excuse for smoking, doing drugs or committing adultery! Well, I appreciate your enthusiasm guys but that`s not what the phrase meant!

I am not saying that I am against new experiences, absolutely not; I wouldn’t miss an opportunity to travel abroad and see the world, skydive, ride a motorcycle, take karate lessons, and many others adventures that I am willing to try; because they will be useful, adventurous and amazing!

 But smoking?

 Around 5.4 million deaths a year are caused by tobacco, it`s neither a new experience nor a useful one! So if you`re still willing to try it then you`re just acting like the little kid that burns his hands! In fact you don’t have the kid`s innocence, you`re just a fool to expect a different result!

You know what? It`s a great thing to learn from our own experiences, it helps us build our personality and changes the way we see life. But it`s even a better thing to learn from everyone around us; because you`ll be gaining way more experiences than you alone can handle! It`s okay to try something new even if it turns out to be a mistake; but to make a mistake intentionally, you should be hanging your head in shame!     

Dear reader! There`s a big world out there full of adventures! So take care which ones you choose, because it`s all about choices! And as you`re willing to learn from your own experiences don`t ignore learning from the others, because that`s what smart people do!