Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Are you ready?

I was reading “Act like a lady, think like a man-Steve Harvey”. He said that for a man to be ready to fall in true love and commit to a relationship he must first define who he is what he does and how much he makes.  I wandered “how do we girls know that we are ready?”  

You thought you were ready when you were a teenager having a crush on the guy next door. You made a story up in your mind because you just couldn’t wait for the real thing to happen. You covered your eyes in order not to see your lover`s reality.. And when you got to know him better, and saw all of his flaws. You either acted childish and said “I love him and I can live with this flaw” or acted more childish and said “I can change him”. This story keeps happening over and over again till you realize that he is not the one. And then you say “when will I meet Mr. Right?”

We girls are always searching for Mr. Right since we were little kids we always dreamed of our prince charming...  I was searching for mine too… until I discovered something… “I am not ready”. I am not ready to commit or to fall in love. I still don’t know what I want in life.  I am still learning, trying new things.  I don’t know whether I want to travel, to open my own business or to change my entire career. I am not ready to settle down and have my life decided. Unlike married or engaged girls who have it all figured out. I still need my time to figure out what I want in life, which plan I can fit in?  and that`s not a bad thing because before I meet my Mr. Right there`s a long surprising journey of me becoming the person I am supposed to be. I don’t have to jump to the end. Because remembering my first crush and how much I liked him. And remembering the girl who I used to be… I am not this girl anymore… I wouldn’t choose him now. There is a reason why he didn’t make it.  And since I want “Mr. Right” not “Mr. Right now”, I will have to wait untill I am ready. And then he will come along… I will just let life surprise me.