Bad outfit day...

Today, I decided to have a “Bad outfit day”; even though I usually take care of what I wear all the time and I make sure I look chic, today I decided to care less about it. I wanted to remind myself that how I look has no effect whatsoever on my self-esteem and my looks don’t define me in anyway.

So I chose the white color for my veil (Worst color for my complexion), I wore an old shirt that looked like a school uniform and I went to college. I noticed the looks of my friends who aren’t used to see me dressed that badly, they couldn’t even fake a compliment; but actually I felt great all the time, I didn’t even care that I wasn’t dressed well.

 Taking care of ourselves is extremely important and it must be a priority, but obsessing by how we look can only do our self-esteem harm, and it’s good for us to care less even for a day… It doesn’t matter how fashionable I am if I don’t have anything else to show to the world; and it doesn’t matter how pretty Barbie looks as long as she’s just a doll, empty from the inside, no brain and no heart…

Never forget that it’s the inside that matters the most no matter how other people judge :))    

و ظني فيك ربي جميل :)

رأيي ان الواحد عشان يعرف دينه بجد، البداية مش انه يعرف الحلال و الحرام و قواعد الفقه و حفظ القرآن، رأيي ان عشان اعرف ديني بجد الخطوة الاولي لازم تكون اني اعرف ربي :) (ده رأي شخصي مش اكتر)

عشان كده، بعد ما تابعت سلسلة "بأسمك نحيا"، طلعت برسايل صغيرة كتبتها عندي عشان اعيش بيهم

تعلمت ان الله هو:

الرحمن الرحيم: في كل حاجة دور علي رحمة ربنا، و خاصة في المصايب، اعرف ان رحمته دايما موجوده، دور علي عوض ربنا هتلاقيه :)

المجيب: كان في مرة مجموعة من الناس رايحين يصلوا صلاة استسقاء "عشان المطر ينزل"، كلهم كانوا رايحين عادي، بس واحد فيهم كان رايح و واخد المظلة معاه، هو ده اليقين اللي المفروض يبقي عندنا و احنا بندعي :)

قال الله تعالى: "وَقَالَ رَبُّكُمُ ادْعُونِي أَسْتَجِبْ لَكُمْ"                                                                                           

 محطلهاش شرط، و محطش واسطة بينا و بينه سبحانه و تعالي :) 

القريب: قال تعالي "وَنَحْنُ أَقْرَبُ إِلَيْهِ مِنْ حَبْلِ الْوَرِيد"، اما بنناجي ربنا، مش بنحتاج نشرح و نفسر و نوجد اعذار، هو عارف كل حاجة! مش هيفهمك غلط، مش هيظلمك، و دايما و في آى وقت هيسمعلك... لو عشنا بالاسم ده قوي صعب اننا نحتاج لحد نشكيله و نحكيله،  هنحتاج لمين و احنا معانا القريب :)

الشكور: متستهونش بأي حاجة خير تعملها مهما تكون صغيره، لو انت نسيت و الناس نست ربك الشكور مش بينسي، و هيشكرك عليها،  اعمل الخير و ارميه البحر عشان ربك سمي نفسه الشكور :)

علي كل حاجة لازم نتعود نشكر ربنا، عشان هو هيشكرنا علي شكرنا ليه و هيزودنا، قال تعالي" لَئِن شَكَرْتُمْ لأَزِيدَنَّكُم"ْ

حاجة كمان، اشكر الناس علي جمايلهم، خلي عندك وفاء، و اوعي تكون ناكر للجميل، قال صلي الله عليه و سلم " لا يشكر الله من لا يشكر الناس"

الودود: بص للدنيا بنظرة جديدة، شوف الالوان، الزهور، المناظر الطبيعية، انواع الطعام المختلفة اللي بنحبها... كل حاجة فيها ابداع من الله و جمال في الارض. هو ربنا خلق كل ده ليه؟ ربنا خلقه عشان احنا نستمتع بيه و نمتع حواسنا بخلق الله، في كل حاجة جميلة افتكر ان ربنا خلقها عشان يودك :) فهو الودود سبحانه :)

الجبار: مع المظلوم علي الظالم، مش هيضيع حقك، و هيجبر بخاطرك... اوعي تظلم حد :)

الوكيل: توكل علي الله و متخافش من المستقبل، توكل علي الله و هو مش هيضيعك، توكل علي الله و اسعي، لأن ربنا بيحب السعي.. :)

الرزاق: كل حاجة ليها طريق حلال و طريق حرام، انت اللي بتختار الطريق اللي توصلها بيه، سواء هيوديك الجنة او النار هي هي نفس الحاجة اللي هتوصلها في الدنيا، لأن الرزق مكتوب!

قال تعالي "وَفِي السَّمَاءِ رِزْقُكُمْ وَمَا تُوعَدُونَ * فَوَرَبِّ السَّمَاءِ وَاْلأَرْضِ إِنَّهُ لَحَقٌّ مِثْلَ مَا أَنَّكُمْ تَنطِقُونَ"

الهادي: كل يوم، 17 مرة بنقول "اهدنا الصراط المستقيم"، ممكن كتير مننا مش بيحسوا باللي بيقولوه ده، لو حسناه، و بجد تخيلنا نفسنا ماشيين علي صراط الذين انعم الله عليهم، الانبياء و الصالحين، ممكن خشوعنا في الصلاة يقوي قوي :)

ربنا هدانا بالفطرة للاسلام من قبل ما نتولد، و هدانا تاني الحمدلله و فضلنا مسلمين، نحمد ربنا بقي علي هدايته ليينا و منعلقش ذنوبنا علي شماعة (مهو اصل لسة ربنا مهدانيش و خلاني اصلي)  عشان دي مش حجة لترك الصلاة (ولا لأي معصية طبعا)... ربنا يهدينا جميعا :)

الفتاح: "الله يفتح عليك" من احلي الدعوات اللي ممكن تدعيها لحد، ربنا يفتح علينا في يومنا، و يفتحلنا آى باب مقفول يكون في الخير لينا :)

الكريم: يا انسان، ربنا اكرمك و فضلك حتي علي الملايكة، فازاي ترضي تذل نفسك بالمعاصي؟ عيش كريم الخلق، كريم النفس، عشان لما تقف قدام ربنا تقوله "يا رب انا مذلتش نفسي بعد ما كرمتني"، اوعي تذل نفسك قدام نفسك :)

الغفور: مش معناها بس ان ربنا يسامحك علي الذنب، لأ ده كمان بيستر عليك، يستر عليك في الدنيا و في الآخرة عشان تكون قدام الناس محترم، مهما كبر ذنبك، طالما استغفرت الله...

اوعي يفوت يوم منغير ما نستغفر ربنا "وَمَا كَانَ اللَّهُ مُعَذِّبَهُمْ وَهُمْ يَسْتَغْفِرُونَ"

و في حاجة تانية كمان، سامح الناس و استر عليهم عشان ربنا يستر عليك، اوعي تفضح حد، و اوعي برده تفضح نفسك... افتكر قول صلي الله عليه و سلم " كُلُّ أُمَّتِي مُعَافًى إِلَّا الْمُجَاهِرِينَ وَإِنَّ مِنْ الْمُجَاهَرَةِ أَنْ يَعْمَلَ الرَّجُلُ بِاللَّيْلِ عَمَلاً ثُمَّ يُصْبِحَ وَقَدْ سَتَرَهُ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ فَيَقُولَ يَا فُلَانُ عَمِلْتُ الْبَارِحَةَ كَذَا وَكَذَا وَقَدْ بَاتَ يَسْتُرُهُ رَبُّهُ وَيُصْبِحُ يَكْشِفُ سِتْرَ اللَّهِ عَنْهُ

" اوعي تمشي فرحان بالمعصية و فاكرها هتخليك كول، استغفر ربنا عشان يسامحك و يستر عليك :)

العزيز: اوعي تذل نفسك لحد، اطلب الحاجة بعزة نفس، لأنك عبد العزيز. مترضاش لنفسك تتذل لبني آدم و انت عبد العزيز، و برده اوعي، اياك تذل حد :)

الحق: ربنا سمي نفسه الحق، هيقف جنب الحق، و هيظهر الحق و هينصر الحق، ياللي علي الحق متخافش :)

....... طبعا كل الحاجات دي ولا حاجة بالنسبة لعظمة ربنا و جلاله، بس ده اللي ربنا قدرني بمعرفته، يا رب اكون افدتكوا :)

Some of my quotes… :))

A perfect life isn't a happy life, it's an imaginary one!

Don't think that a happy person is someone who has no problems in his life, or that his life is better than yours; because it isn't!!  He's just someone who chose to be happy and to overcome his problems!!

Don't judge a person by his smile; because maybe underneath, he's hiding a lot of  pain.

A happy person is a person who's strong enough to smile even though he's in pain; and chose to be optimistic when life lets him down :))

When someone smiles to you, it doesn’t mean he’s perfectly happy; it just means he chose not to drag you in his drama; you gotta respect that :))

When someone says “I am happy” or “I am awesome”, it doesn’t mean he always feels this way; maybe he’s just trying to convince himself he is… so don’t judge… :))

No one is happy 24/7, even happy people. But there are people who are miserable 24/7, they’re called drama queens; don’t be one :))

Happy Easter everyone :))

Be kind...

Sometimes, I do something that I know is wrong, not just me, I am sure everybody does. I feel horrible and despicable afterwards; I cry a lot, and regret what I did; not in a good way, but sort of extreme way that I  sometimes hate myself a little … The only thought that makes me feel better is “I made a mistake, but it’s okay because I am still learning” :)

It doesn’t matter if all the people I know tell me that it’s okay, I always need to hear it from myself; I need to talk kindly to myself! I need to comfort myself and tell myself that everything is okay!

  Sometimes you need to treat yourself like you treat a little kid, teach him with love and kindness; be kind to yourself because if you won’t, no one else will :)

If people are cruel on you, don’t be on their side; be kind to yourself; because “You” are the only one you have in the end...  And only when you are kind with yourself, you will learn to be TRULY kind with the others… :)

Ghosts form the past!

Have you ever had your heart broken; have you ever had someone in your life that took your heart and shattered it into pieces? How long has it been; weeks, months, or maybe years? … How exactly would you feel if I mentioned that someone’s name now? Do you wish you can hurt them back or don’t you hold a grudge?

Most people get their heart broken at least once in their lifetime, whether they get cheated on, lied to or even they get treated rudely or hear hurtful words; it’s nothing to be happy about, but it’s simply life. Some people learn how to move on and let go of their past; but sadly, a lot of people get stuck in it; they waste their present weeping about what happened, and hoping they can get even one day, hoping they can confront the person that hurt them and tell them exactly how they feel. Time passes, but the story remains unfinished; it haunts the person’s mind like a ghost and it makes him unable to get on with his life…

Oh :0 , that’s a lot of drama! :D I am not used to write that negatively! I swear I didn’t mean to remind you of some sad memories; but, on a second thought, I did! I did want you to remember that person who is haunting you mind right now; I want you to remember how bad he made you feel one day, and how much you wanted to kill him then, maybe you still want to :D

I want you to ask yourself this question “What is he thinking about now?”… well, of course you don’t know what is he thinking about now, but the chance that he is thinking about you is 1 in a million… So, why are you so obsessed with him? Your obsession is not helping you getting even; it’s only hurting you and making you feel bad all the time! I know he hurt you, I know he disappointed you; but it’s not about him anymore, it’s about you now. So why don’t you just let go?

Years ago, I had my heart broken in every possible way by my best friend (ex-best friend of course); I used to get very mad and feel horrible when I hear her name, I was like “Shoot me please!” until I realized that the only one who was feeling bad was me, she wasn’t; and I knew that I didn’t deserve to be sad all this time, I was the oppressed not the oppressor. So I decided to feel good and forget all about her! Of course it wasn’t easy for me to forgive someone who hurt me that much, but I practically forced myself into it, I decided to be the better person and to let go; and by time, it got better. To be honest, I am not 100% in piece with her of course I am not and angel; but now when I meet her I don’t feel any kind of sadness, I don’t want something bad to happen to her, I even sympathize with her sometimes when she has a problem…

So, today’s lesson is: Learn how to forgive and to let go, it’s not just a gift to the people who hurt you, it’s the only way you can get your inner peace and you can keep your heart pure; and that serenity is what millions are dreaming of :) :)

جدد نيتك :)

اتنين ستات ، كل واحدة في مطبخها بتقشر بصل و عنيها بتوجعها و عمالة  تدمع....

الاولي، من جواها عمالة تهري و تمكت في نفسها "قطعت الجواز و سنينه! ما انا كنت قاعدة مرتاحة في بيت اهلي! يللا بالسم الهاري!!"

اما التانية، من جواها بتقول "يا رب انا بعمل كل ده عشانك! يا رب ارضي عني يا رب! يا رب خلي عملي ده في ميزان حسناتي!"

 

صحيح، الاتنين دول بيعملوا نفس الحاجة بالظبط من بره، بس من جوا الفرق كبير قوي! الست التانية دي جددت نيتها و اخدت علي عمل صغير قوي زي تقشير البصل حسنات كتير قوي بأذن الله! انما بقي الست التانية، طبعا الله اعلم ربنا بحسابها، بس احساسي بيقوللي ان الغلبان جوزها ممكن يجيلوا تسسم من كتر الغل اللي في الاكل

:D

 

باب الحسنات مش بس مقفول علي الصلاة و الصوم و الصدقة، لأ ده باب واسع قوي، عشان ربنا كريم قوي!  آى حاجة  ممكن تكون بتعملها، مهما كانت صغيرة (و تكون طبعا مش حرام)، ممكن تاخد حسنات عليها ان شاء الله، بس جدد نيتك! يعني في مذاكرتك، في شغلك، في شغل البيت، في تريبة ولادك، حتي لو في خروجك مع اصحابك بينة انك تتبسط شوية عشان ترجع تسعي في مرضاة الله...

يااااه! شوفوا كرم ربنا قد ايه؟ الحمدلله هلي نعمة الاسلام  :) متنسوش بقي كل يوم الصبح، تجددوا نيتكوا  :) :)

اللهم إجعل أعمالنا خالصة لوجهك الكريم ولا تشرك بها أحدا  :)

 

The bus station

 Have you ever stood at the bus station, saw the bus coming towards you and then thought “this one is so crowded, I will catch the next one”? … Did you ever arrive to the station just few seconds late that the bus had already left?  Happens to me all the time; but it always makes me wonder “what if?”… What if that first train could drive me faster to my destination?  What if the next one was more crowded? What if there is no next one?

When I think about it, I am amazed how much the bus station can resemble life; from how I see life, I think it has three major factors; a dream, an opportunity and time; a destination, a bus and the timing! Life is just like a bus station, revolving around these three factors; and if you lose one of them, you can never stop asking “What if?”

Most of us know Walt Disney’s famous quote “If you can dream it, you can do it. Always remember that this whole thing was started with a dream and a mouse.” This man had a dream, and he had a talent which was an opportunity. He believed that he could achieve his dreams, he seized the opportunity and he succeeded; just like that, when the timing was right, all he needed is a dream and an opportunity.

Time! It’s impossible to write down everything about “time” in one paragraph of course; but what I can tell you, is that time is the most important thing in this world; without it, life will be meaningless. “86400” seconds a day, every second is special, every moment that passes will never come back; and yet we waste days doing nothing even though we have million opportunities we can seize! Lately I started to use the time I waste on my way to college reading a book; surprisingly, I realized that I can finish a book every day; just in my transportation time. Watch out for your time because of you don’t control it, it will control you!

 Opportunities; there are two types of them; the first type is the safe, easy and more importantly available opportunity; like the subway! It’s always there, but still a lot of people prefer taking the bus. The easy opportunities are all around us, everywhere, in school, in work and even on the internet; like for example, the online free tutorials; you have a chance to learn anything you want, a language, a software program, a hobby, etc… but how many people actually use this opportunity? How many people take advantage of it? Very few people!

The other type of opportunities is the BIG opportunities that can come once in a life time! These opportunities are scary, risky and unpredictable. Some people have sense of adventure, they like to take risks and to seize these opportunities; others get scared and choose to go the “Safe” way. But sometimes their safe way make get lost, and sometimes they even forget what their destination was. And it’s up to you who do you want to be? Do you want to be just “someone else”? Or do you want to be someone who seized every opportunity?

And last but not least, we have the “Dream”. Not every one of us has a dream! And not every one of us believes that his dream can come true! But the truth is; life without a dream is tasteless! If you don’t have a destination, then what are you doing at the bus station? But thank God! If you’re not one of the lucky people who have dreams, there is a way you can find yours. SEIZE THE OPPORTUNITIES! Yes, if you don’t have any destination, be spontaneous, get on the bus, and see where it will take you. Learn new things go to new places as long as you have the opportunity to; you may find yourself in something you never thought you’d be even interested in… You have nothing to lose, so take risks! Dream big! Believe that there’s more in this life and you’ll get it… Be like Belle in beauty and the beast; when she said “There must be more than this provincial life!” she said it as if she was sure life could give her more! And that’s exactly what she got! :)

And finally, today’s message for you my reader is, seize every opportunity you can find! Because if there were no buses, how would you reach the destination? ;)