For all women out there :)

“There are no dateable guys out there; I haven’t found a guy with even 2 items on my checklist”

“I have a checklist too, each year I don’t find the man of my dreams I take another item of the list, soon this list is going to be a white piece of paper…”

That was a part of the conversation between Hilary duff and her boss in “Beauty and the briefcase”.  Although her boss was a successful, beautiful woman; but yet she felt she needed to lower her standards in order to get a man, any man. the truth is, a lot of women think that way; the fear of being alone makes them insecure that they’ll willing to settle with any man as long as he breathes.

And to these women, you should be ashamed of yourselves! You’re independent, smart, educated women of qualities and you deserve to have men of qualities like you are. You should never under any circumstances accept anything less than what you deserve.

Everywoman should have her own list and her own standards that she holds on to; I am not talking about a list that contains items like “Playing a music instrument, a foreign accent” like the movie did. I am talking about things like: “Education, ambition, treating you well, supporting, helpful…” and many other things that can’t be just optional, they must be a MUST in your partner; they’re necessary and you can’t live without.

Dear women; you should all know that there are good men out there, there are men who will appreciate you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated; NEVER settle for less!  And you should know that “Act like a jerk and she’ll fall for you!” a rule that only works with women who have low self-esteem; because women of high quality WILL NOT accept to be treated with disrespect or depreciation, so be one!  :)

The society has gone crazy!

I love the fuchsia color; do you love it too? Maybe yes, maybe no

I know that this will sound insane; but who do you think is better, someone who loves the fuchsia color, or someone who doesn’t?

Who do you think is more beautiful; A blonde, a brunette or a red-head??

What do you think is prettier, long hair cuts or short haircuts?

Do you think if I said that I like rap music, people would judge me?

Isn’t it strange that here in Africa people are obsessed by having a whiter paler skin; while Europeans who actually have that skin pay lots of money to get a nice tan?

In the past, racism was defined as discrimination according to skin color; black people were to be treated as if they were somehow less than white people. Racism was a very bad thing and the word “Racist” was offensive.

Nowadays, racism has gotten a better look and many different names. And instead of attacking it, we all began to be its followers.

Yes, racism is everywhere; it’s inside the magazines pages that girls think they’re like sacred or something, it’s on  TV 24/7 on different channels, it’s in streets and schools… it’s everywhere!  

Society now puts patterns for how we’re supposed to look, dress and act; and anyone who doesn’t fit in these patterns is considered somehow less than the others… I call that racism!

I have friends who are like size 2 and they actually think they’re fat, only because they don’t look like the models in the magazines that are like size zero or something, or because they have pear shaped body, blah blah blah…

I have friends who wear colors and outfits they don’t really like, just because they saw them in a fashion magazine!

I have friends who lie about the music they listen to or the hobbies they like, just because according to our society they’re uncool!

Seriously, what’s wrong with us? How can we let some magazines or some TV shows judge us like that? How can we let them tell us how we should look or what we should like? What gave them that right?

The society is getting crazy and we have to stop it. The definition of “Beauty”, “Coolness”, “Fashionable” or whatever words they use has to be changed. And we have to stop competing ourselves with anyone.

Start by yourself, stop being a follower to “Racism” and be the leader of your own life!

Let the kindess flow

I am going to tell you a secret; well I guess it won’t be a secret anymore. It’s a system that I have been using for a while and it brought me a lot of joy thank God :) To be honest, I am not the one who made it up, but I don’t remember where I got it from :)

So here it is; whenever someone does a kindness act towards you, you go do the same act to someone else. I call it “The circle of kindness”; for example, if someone compliments you, you go compliment someone else (A real compliment of course on something you really like about him). If you got a call from an old friend and it made you happy, go call another old friend and ask how he is doing :) if you get a text message from a friend in the morning that gives you a big smile, send a message to another friend and brighten his day :) Even if someone smiles at you, be sure to smile at someone else :)

 Got it? The idea is to let the kindness flow among us. It’s not to be a hypocrite and act like you care about these people; it’s about doing something nice to people whoever they are and to make them happy with a little act of kindness. And I am sure that when people are happy it reflects on their jobs and their relationships; so it’s like killing too many birds with one stone :)

Remember; just like energy can never be destroyed, kindness acts can never be wasted, they just flows from one person to another :)

Bad outfit day...

Today, I decided to have a “Bad outfit day”; even though I usually take care of what I wear all the time and I make sure I look chic, today I decided to care less about it. I wanted to remind myself that how I look has no effect whatsoever on my self-esteem and my looks don’t define me in anyway.

So I chose the white color for my veil (Worst color for my complexion), I wore an old shirt that looked like a school uniform and I went to college. I noticed the looks of my friends who aren’t used to see me dressed that badly, they couldn’t even fake a compliment; but actually I felt great all the time, I didn’t even care that I wasn’t dressed well.

 Taking care of ourselves is extremely important and it must be a priority, but obsessing by how we look can only do our self-esteem harm, and it’s good for us to care less even for a day… It doesn’t matter how fashionable I am if I don’t have anything else to show to the world; and it doesn’t matter how pretty Barbie looks as long as she’s just a doll, empty from the inside, no brain and no heart…

Never forget that it’s the inside that matters the most no matter how other people judge :))    

و ظني فيك ربي جميل :)

رأيي ان الواحد عشان يعرف دينه بجد، البداية مش انه يعرف الحلال و الحرام و قواعد الفقه و حفظ القرآن، رأيي ان عشان اعرف ديني بجد الخطوة الاولي لازم تكون اني اعرف ربي :) (ده رأي شخصي مش اكتر)

عشان كده، بعد ما تابعت سلسلة "بأسمك نحيا"، طلعت برسايل صغيرة كتبتها عندي عشان اعيش بيهم

تعلمت ان الله هو:

الرحمن الرحيم: في كل حاجة دور علي رحمة ربنا، و خاصة في المصايب، اعرف ان رحمته دايما موجوده، دور علي عوض ربنا هتلاقيه :)

المجيب: كان في مرة مجموعة من الناس رايحين يصلوا صلاة استسقاء "عشان المطر ينزل"، كلهم كانوا رايحين عادي، بس واحد فيهم كان رايح و واخد المظلة معاه، هو ده اليقين اللي المفروض يبقي عندنا و احنا بندعي :)

قال الله تعالى: "وَقَالَ رَبُّكُمُ ادْعُونِي أَسْتَجِبْ لَكُمْ"                                                                                           

 محطلهاش شرط، و محطش واسطة بينا و بينه سبحانه و تعالي :) 

القريب: قال تعالي "وَنَحْنُ أَقْرَبُ إِلَيْهِ مِنْ حَبْلِ الْوَرِيد"، اما بنناجي ربنا، مش بنحتاج نشرح و نفسر و نوجد اعذار، هو عارف كل حاجة! مش هيفهمك غلط، مش هيظلمك، و دايما و في آى وقت هيسمعلك... لو عشنا بالاسم ده قوي صعب اننا نحتاج لحد نشكيله و نحكيله،  هنحتاج لمين و احنا معانا القريب :)

الشكور: متستهونش بأي حاجة خير تعملها مهما تكون صغيره، لو انت نسيت و الناس نست ربك الشكور مش بينسي، و هيشكرك عليها،  اعمل الخير و ارميه البحر عشان ربك سمي نفسه الشكور :)

علي كل حاجة لازم نتعود نشكر ربنا، عشان هو هيشكرنا علي شكرنا ليه و هيزودنا، قال تعالي" لَئِن شَكَرْتُمْ لأَزِيدَنَّكُم"ْ

حاجة كمان، اشكر الناس علي جمايلهم، خلي عندك وفاء، و اوعي تكون ناكر للجميل، قال صلي الله عليه و سلم " لا يشكر الله من لا يشكر الناس"

الودود: بص للدنيا بنظرة جديدة، شوف الالوان، الزهور، المناظر الطبيعية، انواع الطعام المختلفة اللي بنحبها... كل حاجة فيها ابداع من الله و جمال في الارض. هو ربنا خلق كل ده ليه؟ ربنا خلقه عشان احنا نستمتع بيه و نمتع حواسنا بخلق الله، في كل حاجة جميلة افتكر ان ربنا خلقها عشان يودك :) فهو الودود سبحانه :)

الجبار: مع المظلوم علي الظالم، مش هيضيع حقك، و هيجبر بخاطرك... اوعي تظلم حد :)

الوكيل: توكل علي الله و متخافش من المستقبل، توكل علي الله و هو مش هيضيعك، توكل علي الله و اسعي، لأن ربنا بيحب السعي.. :)

الرزاق: كل حاجة ليها طريق حلال و طريق حرام، انت اللي بتختار الطريق اللي توصلها بيه، سواء هيوديك الجنة او النار هي هي نفس الحاجة اللي هتوصلها في الدنيا، لأن الرزق مكتوب!

قال تعالي "وَفِي السَّمَاءِ رِزْقُكُمْ وَمَا تُوعَدُونَ * فَوَرَبِّ السَّمَاءِ وَاْلأَرْضِ إِنَّهُ لَحَقٌّ مِثْلَ مَا أَنَّكُمْ تَنطِقُونَ"

الهادي: كل يوم، 17 مرة بنقول "اهدنا الصراط المستقيم"، ممكن كتير مننا مش بيحسوا باللي بيقولوه ده، لو حسناه، و بجد تخيلنا نفسنا ماشيين علي صراط الذين انعم الله عليهم، الانبياء و الصالحين، ممكن خشوعنا في الصلاة يقوي قوي :)

ربنا هدانا بالفطرة للاسلام من قبل ما نتولد، و هدانا تاني الحمدلله و فضلنا مسلمين، نحمد ربنا بقي علي هدايته ليينا و منعلقش ذنوبنا علي شماعة (مهو اصل لسة ربنا مهدانيش و خلاني اصلي)  عشان دي مش حجة لترك الصلاة (ولا لأي معصية طبعا)... ربنا يهدينا جميعا :)

الفتاح: "الله يفتح عليك" من احلي الدعوات اللي ممكن تدعيها لحد، ربنا يفتح علينا في يومنا، و يفتحلنا آى باب مقفول يكون في الخير لينا :)

الكريم: يا انسان، ربنا اكرمك و فضلك حتي علي الملايكة، فازاي ترضي تذل نفسك بالمعاصي؟ عيش كريم الخلق، كريم النفس، عشان لما تقف قدام ربنا تقوله "يا رب انا مذلتش نفسي بعد ما كرمتني"، اوعي تذل نفسك قدام نفسك :)

الغفور: مش معناها بس ان ربنا يسامحك علي الذنب، لأ ده كمان بيستر عليك، يستر عليك في الدنيا و في الآخرة عشان تكون قدام الناس محترم، مهما كبر ذنبك، طالما استغفرت الله...

اوعي يفوت يوم منغير ما نستغفر ربنا "وَمَا كَانَ اللَّهُ مُعَذِّبَهُمْ وَهُمْ يَسْتَغْفِرُونَ"

و في حاجة تانية كمان، سامح الناس و استر عليهم عشان ربنا يستر عليك، اوعي تفضح حد، و اوعي برده تفضح نفسك... افتكر قول صلي الله عليه و سلم " كُلُّ أُمَّتِي مُعَافًى إِلَّا الْمُجَاهِرِينَ وَإِنَّ مِنْ الْمُجَاهَرَةِ أَنْ يَعْمَلَ الرَّجُلُ بِاللَّيْلِ عَمَلاً ثُمَّ يُصْبِحَ وَقَدْ سَتَرَهُ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ فَيَقُولَ يَا فُلَانُ عَمِلْتُ الْبَارِحَةَ كَذَا وَكَذَا وَقَدْ بَاتَ يَسْتُرُهُ رَبُّهُ وَيُصْبِحُ يَكْشِفُ سِتْرَ اللَّهِ عَنْهُ

" اوعي تمشي فرحان بالمعصية و فاكرها هتخليك كول، استغفر ربنا عشان يسامحك و يستر عليك :)

العزيز: اوعي تذل نفسك لحد، اطلب الحاجة بعزة نفس، لأنك عبد العزيز. مترضاش لنفسك تتذل لبني آدم و انت عبد العزيز، و برده اوعي، اياك تذل حد :)

الحق: ربنا سمي نفسه الحق، هيقف جنب الحق، و هيظهر الحق و هينصر الحق، ياللي علي الحق متخافش :)

....... طبعا كل الحاجات دي ولا حاجة بالنسبة لعظمة ربنا و جلاله، بس ده اللي ربنا قدرني بمعرفته، يا رب اكون افدتكوا :)

Some of my quotes… :))

A perfect life isn't a happy life, it's an imaginary one!

Don't think that a happy person is someone who has no problems in his life, or that his life is better than yours; because it isn't!!  He's just someone who chose to be happy and to overcome his problems!!

Don't judge a person by his smile; because maybe underneath, he's hiding a lot of  pain.

A happy person is a person who's strong enough to smile even though he's in pain; and chose to be optimistic when life lets him down :))

When someone smiles to you, it doesn’t mean he’s perfectly happy; it just means he chose not to drag you in his drama; you gotta respect that :))

When someone says “I am happy” or “I am awesome”, it doesn’t mean he always feels this way; maybe he’s just trying to convince himself he is… so don’t judge… :))

No one is happy 24/7, even happy people. But there are people who are miserable 24/7, they’re called drama queens; don’t be one :))

Happy Easter everyone :))

Be kind...

Sometimes, I do something that I know is wrong, not just me, I am sure everybody does. I feel horrible and despicable afterwards; I cry a lot, and regret what I did; not in a good way, but sort of extreme way that I  sometimes hate myself a little … The only thought that makes me feel better is “I made a mistake, but it’s okay because I am still learning” :)

It doesn’t matter if all the people I know tell me that it’s okay, I always need to hear it from myself; I need to talk kindly to myself! I need to comfort myself and tell myself that everything is okay!

  Sometimes you need to treat yourself like you treat a little kid, teach him with love and kindness; be kind to yourself because if you won’t, no one else will :)

If people are cruel on you, don’t be on their side; be kind to yourself; because “You” are the only one you have in the end...  And only when you are kind with yourself, you will learn to be TRULY kind with the others… :)